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Monday, May 18, 2020

懷念的人

by Thomas Kinto

感覺好像心中懷念的人總是已經去世的人,為什麼對活著的人卻不會?媽媽是已經進入第五年了,還是每天的懷念感嘆,也許是每天念經回向功德都唸到媽媽的名字,還有妹妹的,連帶的也會在心中泛起幕幕的念想,只是沒有媽媽那麼深,而爸爸就模模糊糊。結論就是此人在生時跟我有多親近,我對他就有多懷念。

回想過去親人都健在的時候,念想的都是活人,心中少了哀愁,這也許就是年紀大了常會心懷感傷的原因。因為想著的人若還健在,你只想能為他做些什麼,而對於去世的人,卻無能為力,只能徒傷悲。

反省自己的這種心態,只能增加無力感,對健康無益處,對行為也沒有幫助,要快樂安詳的活著,就必須進行調整,換掉內心的銀幕吧,雖然無奈,要快樂還是悲傷的過,還得自己做選擇。

Sunday, May 4, 2014

How to believe in yourself: Jim Cathcart at TEDxDelrayBeach





Somewhere deep inside you know what kind of person you were gonna be, if you want to produce great acorns thinks like an oak, not like an acorn, think like the person you intend to become, like the Christian question what will Jesus do? Ask yourself  how would the person I'd like to be do the thing I am about to do.



The acorn has three parts, it's got a stem, a cap, and a seed. and the stem represent it's connection to the pass, all the acorn and all the oak that ever exist in it's line before is encoded through that stem, legacy into this acorn. The cap holds on to the seed, until the seed ready to go on it's own, so the cap represent your coaches, your mentor your roll model your guides your parents your friends your teachers, and when you're ready to grow on your own, the seed of that acorn holds not only your potential but the potential of every future generations of acorns that will spring from that line.



So let me ask you a question, what kind of seed is in you? See I belief part of our responsibility in life is to find out who we are to discover ourselves, first off we need to respect our nature we need to realize we are part of a continuing chain that carry a legacy and responsibility, and if that's the case then we needs to recognize that we were not biological coincidences, I belief there is a great creator, and I belief you were intentionally created for a myriad of purposes, there are many things we can do with our lives, and I thinks it's our job to find out and to do'em as well as we possibly can. We're passing along the right imprint for the next generation, and that's just simply my life philosophy, that's the way I look at it.

So first we need to respect our nature, second, we need to know our nature, take Aristotle advice know thyself, but know things about yourself that most people don't discover, for example, know how you're smart, not just how smart you are in comparison to others, in what ways are you smart, know what you care about, what is the values that motivate your choices, know what's your personal velocity is, the intense or the drive that you naturally operate, know the back ground imprint, positive neutral and negative that you carry with you, and what effect it's had on you, know your behavioral style, how you come across to other people, know the pattern and the choices so that you continuing learn more and more about what it's like to be you so you can do a better job of it, and than we need to apply our nature, we need to nurture our nature by expressing ourselves in the world.

See, I never expected to be anything but ordinary, I was raise to be nice and ordinary, I expected I would grow up to be like dad working for the phone company, I figured I'd go to work in the phone company, maybe work in an office, I figured I'd work till sixty five and have 1.34 kids, I'd retire 65 and then I'd die at statistical average age for my gene pool, that's what I expected, until one day in 1972 on the radio in the next room to mine I heard a voice that changed everything, I was working for the little rock housing authority, Little Rock Arkansas, Little Rock urban renewal agency. I was a government clerk working 525 dollars a month I weight 200 pounds, this is 148, I smoke 2 packs of cigarettes a day, I never set a goal in my life, I didn't have a college degree and didn't have money in the bank, I was newly married with a new baby at home and I didn't expect much from life and in the next room I heard the voice of Earl Nightingale, Known at the time as the dean of personal motivation, he was on 900 radio station around the world, what he said that day will forever resonates with me. He say if you will spend one extra hour each day studying your chosen field you'll be a national expert in that field in five years or less, that hit me like a tornado, it rearrange everything in my life. I started doing the math, an hour a day, say five days a week, fifty weeks a year, that's twelve hundred and fifty hour in five year. If I spend, me just ordinary me, twelve hundred and fifty hour studying one subject...Wow! I could actually be a national expert, what I want to be an expert at? Those not urban renewal, and than it occur to me a few weeks later I want to do what that guy on the radio's doing, but I had no idea what that was, I just feel that's right to get into the field of human development, I thought will see, an hour a day, I am a government clerk I've got eight hours a day, I can do this by Thursday, and then I started thinking about what he'd said and I took him seriously, an hour a day, I focus, I thought I was behind the game so I needed two hours a day, and three and four and five... so I over compensated and I become fanatical about the field of human development, and in that five years period I went from being a government clerk with very little aspiration to being a full time speaker and trainer, in two years, that was 1972, in 1974 I started buying Earl Nightingale's training material and selling them to businesses, by 1984 his company was selling my training material world wide, they sold three and a half million dollars worth of one of my first audio, in the first two years it was out, I was blown away, his formula works, and I've seen it for hundred and even thousand of people in the many many years since that time that I've been sharing that massage. Think about that, you, Ted audience, if you were to focus half an hour a day, extra just beyond the Ted talk you always watch, ok beyond that, if you were to focus half an hour of study on one field of endeavor for five consecutive years, you not only transform you, you transform the world around you, and we collectively will transform the world as we know it today. You and I were born with a gift to make this a better place, even if we didn't improve we can make the world better right now, we can encourage people, compliment peoples, we can solve problems, we can pick up trash, we could fix things we could bring new ideas, but as you grow you become a bigger source for the rest of lives to express itself through you, you were put here for a reason, it contain in that acorn, so nurture your nature, figure out first off, I am valuable accept that, I wanna know who I am and I wanna know how I operate, and how can I understand me better, and then I wanna nuture that nature, I wanna apply myself in the world put myself to work in such way that the rest of the world says well that's cool, if he or she could do it, I could probably do it, I wonder how they did it, and then we start spreading that and the ripples go world wide, so ask yourself every day how were the person I'd like to be do the things I am about to do.. Thank you.

Friday, May 2, 2014

Overcoming hopelessness: Nick Vujicic at TEDxNoviSad





危机即是转机,几年前我也用过这一句话来鼓励我的朋友,那时我在法学会推动活动,当朋友们面对困难时我以这句话鼓励他们度过难关。可是今天我感到孤单无助的时候却忘记了跟自己讲这句话,有时候我们需要别人跟我们讲这样的话,看来you tube也变成那个跟我讲这句话的人了。



今天有十亿人再捱饿,一百万人会自杀,每四秒有一个自杀。一亿两千万奴隶!我能够为我的人生难过吗?



我们生来面对困苦,可是我们要找到希望。



刚刚我太太跑来跟我说妈妈电视机声音开太大声,她静不下来,以至于听不到内心的指引。我们是在烦恼生命的不足还是看到自己所拥有的而庆幸?



when we feel that we don't have enough love we loose strength

爱源自于我们自己,只要我们能够爱别人,能够给予别人爱,我们就已经拥有爱。



看看我们的人生,我们感觉到渺小,我们感觉到无能为力,还是我们能够看到生命在鼓励我们超越自我?那一句话叫什么呢?虽然看不见但是还是相信?"Faith"



如果我们往消极的方向去行动,我们会更加加重别人的负担。生命总是有许多选择,问题是你在寻找什么呢?你必须找到,你为何生于此?你是谁?死后往哪里去?(这些也是禅师要我问的问题。)



你的人生有两天重要的日子,你出生的日子和你开悟的日子,那是你知道为什么的日子。



我们所作所为都是为了在寻找爱,可是我们屡屡犯错,因为我们找错方向,爱在心里面,往外遍寻不着。



我们是不会满足的,一直到我们知道为什么我生于此,我们才能够找到希望,我们才能够拥有爱心,才能够满足。我是完美的,我的人生有更大的使命待我去完成,我不是无缘无故的出生。当然我感觉不到奇迹,但是我还是可以成为别人的奇迹。我们有心去爱别人,我们想看到别人相亲相爱,爱惜自己,心怀远大的志向,永不轻言放弃。



我们不都是在找寻希望吗?你在寻找什么呢?一天一天慢慢来,一时找不到答案不要放弃,最后安详的心比什么都值得。

It's Never too Late to Chase your Dreams: Steve Mazan at TEDxSanJoseCA





我忘记了有一天我也会死,我知道我必须想好了到底我要过怎样的时候,到底想完成什么,但是很可悲的是这个问题还没有答案。此人说,别把你的问题拖到某一天才来解决,因为日历里边没有某一天。刚刚也听到Diana David说,五岁的那个你想要做什么?我自己这几天也不断的在想,要是我有两千八百万我还会卖保险吗?答案是否定的,那么我想做什么呢?我想过怎样的生活呢?



学会做吉他的工艺?把人家砍下来要丢掉的树木做成吉他,既环保又废物利用?

写书?

经营博客?

写书法?

弹吉他?

。。。还是。。。???



唉!我必须找到这个答案!

Friday, October 4, 2013

向幼童学习

    如果问一个小孩:“小朋友,你知道一个人要怎么样才会
成功?”他一定会说:“一个人要有恒心、有毅力、有自信、不
怕失败、勇往直前才会成功。”这是连十几岁的孩子随时都可以回答的问题,但是为什么世界上成功的人,快乐的人,却是如此少呢?这使我想起一句话:“三岁小孩都知道,八十老翁做不到。”

有恒心,从一个正在学习走路的幼童身上可以看到。屡战屡败,屡败屡战。一个动作不断的重复,我们称为有恒心。为什么呢?

Thursday, October 3, 2013

奇迹创造者

这样的老师和这样的学生是注定要相遇的。人生的奇迹往往要过后才让你看清,所发生的总有他的道理。以一般的看法,我们会觉得人们的遭遇或者应该说人的遭遇都有他事先的安排,这样就不能够不说是宿命论,也许有人会说是神的安排。但是从另一方面看,明显的生命的发展有他不可预订的层面,也就是说生命的成长和开展有他生生不息的有机的自由创作。唯一能够解释这个状况就只有吸引力法则。

海伦凯乐只靠触觉来理解生命,成就生命,我们五感健全的人还有什么借口我们不能够成就我们的梦想?

Wednesday, June 12, 2013

觉察


我想你一定有这样的经验: 当你在恋爱时, 所看到的世界是多么美好,到处都是光明的, 人生充满希望, 你看到的每个人都是如此可爱, 身边人所做的许多原来你不能接受的事情, 你也都能够一笑置之。 可是当你遇到挫败时, 同样的人、同样的事、 同样的物却变得如此无法忍受! 其实世界可能仍是相同的, 只是因为你内在感觉的不同, 因此所看到的将是不同的世界。“我是一切的根源”,你现在所有的一切都是你为自己所创造出来的, 而那一切的根源就是你自己, 也就是你潜意识从小到大所有的经验。 如果你愿意, 不妨让你匆忙的人生脚步停下来, 好好觉察在你生命里有哪些模式, 为你创造出什么样的结果? 医为这是生命潜能开发最基本也是最重要的一种能力。没有觉察,就不会有改变,也不会有自我的成长, 更不会有潜能的开发。

生命潜能的一切研修也是根源于“觉察”。 当我迷失在人生匆忙的脚步里, 迷失在外面世界的潮流中, 就失去了觉察的能力; 生命的脚步越匆忙, 你将越没有能力去觉察。 我想假如你曾经有在高速公路开车的经验, 会发现当车速越快, 视野将会变得越狭窄, 时速超过一百二、 一百三时, 你只能看着眼前的一个定点, 完全无法看见两边的风景; 可是车速渐慢时,你会发现视野逐惭宽广; 当车子完全停下来时,眼前的一切完全浮现在视野里, 你可以尽情浏览视野里所有的风景。 所以参加自我成长、 潜能开发课程, 或者训练工作坊的人, 最重要的就是给自己两三天的时间, 停下来看一看在你眼前、 身边的风景到底如何? 停下来看一看这些结果与你生命里的经验、 与现在、 与你经验中的自己到底有怎样的关系?

禅学里有个苏东坡与佛印的公案。 有一天苏东坡和佛印辩论,他问佛印:“你看我像什么?” ,佛印看了看东坡,回答说:“像个佛。”,苏东坡又问佛印:“你知道在我眼中,你看起来像什么?”佛印笑着问他:“你看我像什么?”, 苏东坡说:“你看起来像堆牛粪!”, 佛印笑而不答。 苏东坡很得意地以为他赢了, 回家告诉苏小妹: “今夭我终于辩赢佛印了。”, 苏东坡把事惰的经过告诉了妹妹。 聪慧的苏小妹听完后对哥哥说:“你还是输了。佛印因为心中有佛, 所以他看你像个佛。”,当然下面的话她就不用再说了。

所以, 我们常常以为玻璃是透明的, 以为自己看到的是真相。 事实上, 我们每一个人看到的都是自己, 整个世界都是你自己创造出来的, 你所处的四周都是镜子, 你那不是透明的玻璃。如果你讨厌一个人,就会看到他许多缺点, 然而那个人在一百个不同的人眼中, 他就会是一百个不同的样子。

外面的世界都只是一个外缘, 都只是一面镜子, 反射出我们内在的因————生命里的许多经验。 如果我们想要成就自己的生命. 想有一个更高可能性的自己, 首先要接受 ————我是一切的根源, 这样的观念, 停止要求外在世界来符合我们的需要, 把所有曾经浪费过的那些精力, 用回到自己身上。

停下脚步, 去觉察一下自己生命里所有的模式、 潜意识和在成长过程中所学会的一些方式。那些都是幼小时候所学的,都是内心里无形的绳索, 当我们重新觉察后, 也可以重新再做选择,这是改变的开始,也是潜能开发的第一步,而重点就是————“我是一切的根源”。

我想当我们的内在发生改变时, 我们也将会看到不同的世界,因而我们将会用不同的方式来反应,从而创造出不同的结果,同时生命也将因此而改变。

当然, “觉察”并不是理论, 它必须要下许多工夫, 去和更宽广的世界接触。